Letters For Parents

Brad,

I tried to do what you said and not ever repeat the way I used to act. I am sad to say that I have failed. Relationships scare me, sex doesn’t. I know that really sounds weird…but see if all it is is sex then if they turn around and run then they are running away from the sex and I just tell myself well all it was was sex. But if there is more than just sex and they run away they must be running away from me. I mean, I enjoy sex too but I could walk away form it…it’s not everything. I used to plan on waiting. It’s just I have begun to use it as my wall to hide behind, to shield me from rejection. That way only my body is rejected not my soul, my inner personality. See I made that mistake with the first guy I was ever with. I let him in heart and soul and body...and he rejected me. I will never recover from that. A part of me still loves him…like six months later. I won’t make that mistake again and that is why I hide behind the mask of sex. That way I still get the attention and ‘nurturing’ I crave and I don’t have to worry about “me” getting rejected. I go in expecting nothing so when I get nothing it’s no surprise. I am truly lost.

Brad,

When you began speaking at _______high school on Tuesday, I thought I could sense the direction you were heading with your remarks, and I literally thought to myself, “No WAY are my daughters coming to this school if this is the way sex is going to be talked about.” By the end, however, my mind was totally changed. So…
Thank you for being blunt – it was fresh and captured the kid’s attention.
Thanks you for being funny – it helped us laugh at ourselves.
Thank you for being truthful – because of the first two qualities, you were able to reach these kids on a level that no other adult in there lives ever could have.

Dear Brad,

I hate you! At least until the day I get married. Until then I will hate you. I stopped having sex and it’s your fault (I did the letter for my future wife). And I hate you for it. My ex and I recently broke up after a year and a half. Things were going good. Then she stopped having sex with me at about the 12 month mark (that wasn’t the problem that ended it between us). I wasn’t mad at her for not having sex with me any more. I was actually quite alright with it. I was pissed because she wouldn’t tell me why. For 4 months I waited patiently for that answer. Why why why??? Finally a couple days before we broke up she gave me your stupid f_ _ _ ing book that I hate more than any thing and I love at the same time. And it suddenly all made sense. Unfortunately, I read it one day to late. I read it the day after we broke up, in 8 straight hours. Now the only thing I wish I could go back and change is that she would’ve given me that book like 2 months into our relationship. It would’ve changed every thing. I’d probably still be with her now. But unfortunately it was a day to late.

By your definition, I love her. I completely and utterly love her with my entire being and I want her to be happy. I still lover her, but I did some stupid things and I ruined what I had. Don’t get me wrong, she had her faults to but I at least I can admit mine. (Why won’t girls admit when they’re wrong? That pisses me off to no end.) Now I can’t get her back. I’m rather miserable and depressed because I realized through your book how much I love her. I just wish she would’ve given me that book so much sooner. Sorry I’m probably ranting but it’s jut hard to explain.

I guess why I’m really writing this email is to say…thank you. Thank you for a gift which I probably will never be able to repay to you or her. I’d do anything for her but I don’t have a clue as to how to repay this. I just wanted to let you know what you probably already know but, your book does make a difference.

Thank you so much.

Brad,

Dear Brad,

…I don’t know how it is in other high schools, but at my school, the sexual culture is very frightening. Guys at our school make guys in your illustrations sound like doofy gentlemen. I just wish that I could somehow warn every teenage girl in America of the predators that roam the halls in school. When it comes down to it, all girls are the same. They are all just so oblivious and blind to the danger. No matter how many bad things they’ve seen happen, no matter how many friends of theirs have fallen in to similar traps, they always go for the most dangerous guys, and think that they are the one special girl in all of time in our whole universe who is not susceptible to the lies. The girls of our youth are being cheated.

They all think they can change men and can never possibly comprehend the world of guys. They have never had guy conversations with nothing but strictly guys in the room. They don’t know what thoughts linger in the minds of guys and just how goal (sex) oriented they are. They have never been in a guy’s locker room and listened to the horrid locker-room talk that would run a girl’s blood cold if she was ever to truly hear it. I’ve heard some scary things. I tell you now that monsters walk among us, in the shape of the guy you see in the hall every day. In the minds of the men in this heavy sexual culture, women are objects and pieces of garbage (in) the most extreme sense. Forget everything you’ve seen in the movies about guys trying to take advantage of girls. It’s like that times ten. Welcome to the real world, girls. This is the reality that has taken MY school by storm, I have no idea what other schools are like.

Brad,

Ok, first of all you were wrong about some of the things and me any girlfriend are perfectly fine and we were gonna have sex for the first time this weekend and after your speech, she doesn’t want to anymore and that’s all because of you!!!!!! Yeah, me and her both got checked for STD’s and we both are clean. Why the f_ _ k did you have to brainwash my girlfriend and all of the girls at our school? DUDE, sex is cool at a young age. It feels different but you would not know that cuz u were against sex before marriage. WRITE BACK and tell me why the f_ _k you had to f_ _k that up for me.

Signed,

“A pissed off student”

Dear Brad,

I just left your 2 hour presentation and I must say you have a lot of guts to be able to go up there and be able to speak the honest truth of what both females and males are thinking. Especially being a male your self. Well, I just wanted to let you know that I found your presentation very insightful. You see, I was planning on having sex. Not because I’m in love or in a pressuring relationship but just to get it over with and out of my way. I’m not in any type of relationship so I was just planning on doing it with a some what random person. Not random as in some guy off the streets but random as in no strings attached. I’m not gonna see that guy everyday. But after hearing your speech I am proud to say that…I think I’m going to wait. I don’t want to have to worry about pregnancy or STDs or even my reputation. I just wanted to say think you for helping me realize this.

Dear Brad,

…I talked to some of my friends who are sexually active after your presentation and asked them what they thought. Most said they thought it was stupid, and when I asked them why, there answers amazed me. They all seemed to say they disliked it because it was the TRUTH and they realized how little their relationships meant to one another!

Dear Brad,

Just this weekend before you came to my school me and my friends thought it would be a good idea to start drinking. I had no idea what I was getting myself into. Drinking at such a young age is a horrible idea. I am only thirteen and drinking and drugs was something that has been no problem to me for the past two years. At age 12 I popped my first pill. Big mistake. Getting drunk for the first time this past weekend was a huge mistake. I got totally taken advantage by a guy, and the worst part is I can’t remember a single think about it. I don’t even know him. He was about seventeen, making him four years older than me, and I don’t even know his name except that it started wit a B. I can’t even explain the worried feeling I had the second I found out, the stuff that I did, and the stuff he did to me. I never thought I would be doing that at the age of 13. For all the people who think that drinking and doing drugs is “cool,” can you honestly answer why? There is a reason that drinking is for people that are 21. It shouldn’t be for people who are 13. The things that have happened to me in the past weekend I will never forget. It will stay with me forever, and totally give me this horrible feeling I wish would just go away, and the other sad part about it is, I can’t tell anyone without them betraying me. I mean shouldn’t people just be there for me? I guess not because I can’t tell anyone about it, or talk to anyone about it, and talking is something I could really use right now.