30. Why are guys so horny?
Good question. Why are we? Because we were created that way. (By the way, when you ask that question it's also telling me a little about you girls too; that girls AREN'T as horny. Right? Yeah.) Here's why. I believe God, in order to make certain that the human race would continue on, made sex one of most powerful desires known to mankind. If He didn't, it would all be over in one generation. But here's the problem. If a guy created a baby every time he had sex and he had to take care of each and every baby and it?s mother for the next 20 years of his life and ... THERE WAS NO PLEASURE IN THE ACT ... how many guys would have sex? None! You think God didn't?t know that? Of course he did. So, he had to make the desire for sex so pleasurable that most guys would do just about anything to have sex, baby or no baby. That way the generations would go on and on. But the problem is, what if he made both men and women with the same desire? What if all men and women had the same intensity sexually as men? What would happen to our society? We'd never get anything done. We'd have so many babies it would overrun the earth's capacity. It would be terrible.
But on the other hand, what if both men and women had the same sexual intensity as most women? What would happen to our society then? We'd die out in one generation.
So God made us different. A man has such a strong desire for his wife that it brings him home after work every night to the place he can rightfully fulfill his sexual desires. The women can give to her man only if she is secure in his love and commitment. If he is selfish, uncommitted and unfaithful, she will not give him what he so desperately wants, and he knows it. So he is forced to grow up. He has to learn to focus on her as a whole person, not just on her body and looks. In that process he learns to love and be loved. He learns how to win her heart. He learns self-discipline and responsibility, he maintains a job, and becomes productive.
The girls who give sex to their boyfriends outside of marriage are undermining the maturing process guys need so badly. If she will wait for marriage to fulfill his sexual desire he will have to learn to understand her, listen to her, communicate with her, and not take her for granted. He has to discover that it's not his "right" to act on his impulses, and that sex is not the ultimate value. Instead of spending his whole life standing back and admiring his many options from afar (Look at all those girls, man!?), he begins to grow up and become close with one person. Learning to be focused on a relationship brings purpose to the rest of his life, including his career and his children. If a guy can discipline his body (by waiting) then he can control every other aspect of his life. And what girl in her right mind would want to marry a guy who can't control himself? (Excerpts from Don't Take Love Lying Down Page 346)
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